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JOURNAL 2009

1 January 2009 Thursday HAPPY NEW YEAR DAY

I have kind of decided to do a better job this year than last year with keeping up with this journal. Not that I have any more to say then I did last year but it does help me organize my thoughts and reflect on where my life is presently.

The weather this first day of 2009 is cool and breezy and much of the snow we had prior to Christmas is starting to melt. I stayed up until midnight writing in my journal and watching shows via my new Instant Watch Netflix box. Wow has technology really changed. This February all analog television reception will be history and I did buy myself a converter box but this Instant Watch thing is better than Cable TV.

One of the programs I watched last night was a Sundance film called A Certain Kind of Death. The film is about how American society deals with the death of someone with no immediate survivors. One of the deaths was that of a Gay man in his sixties who had no living relatives. He had buried a longtime companion in 1993 that died of AIDS but he died alone in his apartment. He must have known he was dying because the coroner office found in his kitchen table his financial records and his pre-burial arrangements. The other cases were more transient people who had no real assets or families.

Most of the Gay people I knew that have died had families that disposed of the remains and the estate but it sure got me to thinking about those who don't. The Coroner office will put you in the county mortuary, will go through all your personal records to fine a next of kin and will box up all your possessions to store. If no next of kin is found or doesn't want to deal with it... then the county cremates you and sells all your estate at a public auction. You then are buried in a county plot with the cremains of all the other "county despos" for that year with just a marker indicating the year.

This Gay guy had no nephews or nieces, evidently no cousins so his bank account of $60,000 went to the county. But since he had prepaid for a funeral he was buried in a casket and buried in a cemetery next to family.

It really got me to thinking that I need to have a prepaid funeral done so that it's not left to my nephews and nieces to dispose of me when my time is over. It also made me realize even more that things are just things and having love in your heart and people who care for you matter more than anything else.

I will probably spend today alone although Mike Romero is home. I went with him when he took the dogs for a ride this morning although he didn't ask me. However he said that he was thinking of putting Smokey down because he thinks his pancreatitis is back. I told him that I hadn't seen anything wrong with Smokey and I have been home with them since the 18th of December. Makes me wonder if it's Smokey or Mike Romero's melancholy that is putting these thoughts into his head. If Smokey was in pain like he was last Summer I would say okay but I think Smokey has a lot more time to be with us before he leaves the land of the living.

            Well the grim reaper didn't take me in 2008 and passed over all my friends and family so I am grateful for that.

This post for the beginning of a new year really should be more optimistic so I will count my blessings... I have a warm house on 1633 Fernleaf Street in Salt Lake City, I still have a job teaching which I love more the I hate, I have four adorable pups that I get to care for... I am still relatively healthy, mobile, and alert. I have money in the bank (not much)...my mom is still alive and my two sisters. I have people who would miss me if I was not here... and I have a cute UPS delivery boy who calls me Mama bear and calls to say he loves me.

So bring it on New Year! It's been 40 years since 1969 when I was 18 graduated from High School and fell in love with a boy named John Cunningham. 40 years since the Stonewall Rebellion turned being a homosexual on its head.

 

2 January 2009 Friday

I haven't done a damn thing today but lay in bed and watched a Jericho Marathon... Boy am I addicted to my Netflix. It was gloomy and cloudy for much of the day so perfect for staying inside. Just one of those lazy ass days.

 

3 January 2009 Saturday

Another do nothing day but isn't that what Saturday is for? Surprisingly Mike Romero wanted to go out for Breakfast so we went to the Amber on 33rd South. It wasn't crowded at all like last time. May be people are starting to watch their pennies now.

I finished watching my Jericho series...29 episodes of 40 minutes each. That's 19 hours and 20 minutes! I wonder if that's too much television LOL.

Tom Folks came over tonight to watch a movie with Mike Romero and had pizza but I just stayed down stairs.

Don't worry though...the dogs got fed, the dishes done, groceries bought, and house vacuumed.

I got a nice letter from our former neighbors the Giles. They are in Florida now. I wrote them on Christmas Eve and Kimberlee finally got a chance to respond.

She wrote, “ am so glad you are all okay after the accident. Ice is one of the things that scared me the most about winter driving. I have been watching your weather there. It sounds like a lot of snow. I'll bet it was a beautiful Christmas, though. It was a weird Christmas for us with these beautiful temperatures. It was fun to all be together, but it felt like June.?.?.?.

That is so great that Tim is home from his mission. I bet he looks so much more grown up now. It is funny how Norma and Lynn were so anxious for their children to grow up and leave. Then they really missed them when they were both gone.

            Since there is already a family room, do your neighbors next door need another room as big as the garage. How many people live there?

I don't blame you for staying home in the warmth. My mom has been telling us that it has been 20's in the morning and 40's in the afternoons in Vegas - way too cold for her liking. And as you heard, they got snow!

I am sorry to hear about Michael's "break up," but I am glad he is moving on.

We miss you both so much. I miss our casual chats, our deep talks, and just seeing you next door every day. It was just so comforting knowing you were there. Elyse and Kayla think of the two of you as their uncles and true friends. We all love to reminisce about our fun times with you. I still get giggles imagining you trying to save our tent thing in that wind storm. I picture you wind sailing in our backyard. I also loved how you rolled home that one night when we were drinking margaritas in the front yard with my mom. We were EWT’s (Eloquent White Trash)!

I remember every incredibly kind thing you have done for us and how secure we always felt knowing you were right next door. If there was anyone that I wanted to have influence over our girls, it was you and Mike Romero. You are both accepting, supportive, and loving people who know the true meaning of love - that is what you gave to us every day. We cannot begin to thank you enough.

I hope that each time you think of us or even look at our ol' home, you feel our sincerity and thankfulness for your true friendship. Leaving you two was the hardest part of leaving Salt Lake . You are irreplaceable.

We have some great news, a miracle actually! No, I am not pregnant, and neither is Elyse – woo hoo! The news is that our house sold December 31st! It was only on the market for a total of 52 days before it recorded into the new owner’s name – whew! We were SOOO lucky and SOOO blessed! We lost about $40,000, but we did not feel that was too bad considering today’s market. We are truly happy "homeless" people - woo hoo!

We are lovin' it here so far. The heat of July and August may have us singing a different tune, but we are really enjoying weather in the 70's and 80's in the winter. Elyse and Kayla are still both getting their straight A's in school. Elyse is going to take 18 credits this semester with the goal of getting her associate’s degree by May. Kayla has already adjusted to school here and has made friends. She was so thankful that 6th grade is in middle school here in Gainesville like it was in Kalispell. Elyse and my dad are both happy to finally have us back home. It just feels right.

Randy and I plan to look for jobs this month. We had to work so hard to sell the house and then move here, that it has taken a toll on our "little bit older" bodies. We have been trying to recuperate this past week or so.

I hope you have an absolutely fabulous New Year!

Love, Kimberlee

 

5 January 2009 Monday

Back to work day on this cold 17 degree morning. I had 6 kids absent so either they are still vacationing or are sick. Actually it was good to be back in a routine even if two of Mexican kids called the husband of a teacher here a "nigger"... school counselor got involved and I had to stay after school to talk with parents so who was being punished? Me and my bladder. It began to snow heavily by the time I left and I crept home at 45 miles an hour on the freeway while SUVs tried to run me over.

I sent a text to Mark Andersen that I insist that he stay here if the roads home are bad tonight. He lives 55 miles south of here. I hadn't heard anything from him since New Year Eve when he texted me that he loved me Mama bear.

 

I fixed some ham and veggies for dinner... watch a spoof called “Meet the Spartans” a takeoff on the movie 300, watch 2 episodes of “Dead Like Me” and I was in bed by 9 when I heard the dogs go crazy and sure enough Mark Andersen walked in through the garage door.

I ran to give him a hug in his cute UPS uniform and brought him upstairs where Mike Romero greeted him and held him... not like Christmas Eve when he was so stand offish to him.

I fixed him some dinner of left over ham and Michael actually stayed out and talked with him. I wanted to just hold him the whole time but controlled my instincts. It was enough that I was feeding the kid again and he still felt like this was a home he could turn to.

 I got him some extra blankets for his bed and told him at 10 that I was going to bed. He said he was going to take a shower but never heard it so I don't know if Mike Romero and he stayed up talking or what. I slept good knowing that Mark was sleeping under my roof again and I grateful for that.

 

8 January 2009 Thursday

It was warm enough today to melt a lot of the snow...yea. Today at school one of my darlings was choking the shit out of this girl during lunch recess so I spent my planning time in the office and discovered that the girl may have been playing "rubby-dubby" with some 1st grade girls. Yuck!

We have a new P.E. teacher and it’s a young man named Ladd so I’m not the only man at my school anymore and he’s way cute probably about 21. I can lust with my eyes can’t I?

 

9 January 2009 Friday

Forty years ago Richard M Nixon became president, the age of Aquarius began, the Stonewall Rebellion started the modern Gay Civil Rights movement, we landed on the moon, Charles Manson perverted the image of hippies, and there was a War Moratorium across America's campuses but of all these events of 1969 the most significant to me was falling in love with a boy my senior year in high school. John Cunningham.

He was born this day in 1951 and departed this life in the merry month of May 2007. Happy Birthday John. I still love you and always will.

 

16 January 2009 Friday

Well the school year is officially half over today and I am playing hooky. Monday is a holiday and Tuesday the kids won't be there so it should be a nice restful time.

Wednesday I wrote an article for the Q salt Lake on Boys In the Band. It's being performed as kind of a revival at the Rose Wagner Theater here in SLC so Hope to see it this weekend or soon.

Kids have calmed down some at school and the weather has warmed to melt some of the snow although I here that the Midwest is being hit with 20 below weather. A plane crash landed yesterday in New York City in the Hudson River and all survived!

Haven't heard nor seen Mark Andersen since last time on the 5th and Mike Romero says that Mark doesn't talk to him much so I don't know what is going on with him.

I've been watching a lot of Its Always Sunny in Philadelphia lately... it's so crazy but I kind of like it.

Nothing new with me... my right knee is kind of sore... old age I guess. Ricardo Montaban died the other day... Khan for you Star Trekkies. I bet he rode to heaven in a Cordoba with his butt plastered to the fine Corinthian Leather

 

17 January 2009 Saturday

Today is my uncle Wallace's 82nd birthday. He's living back in Lubbock Texas with my Aunt Mattie Lee. His son Gary and I are the only grandsons still alive of our grandparents. I am the oldest.

Yesterday I went to my masseuse and paid $70 for a massage... I have to pay these days for a man to touch me... thank God I still have the money.

Ben Anderson finally emailed me. He's been gone for six weeks. He wrote:

Hi Ben, How was your Christmas and New Year’s? I spent mine with the "in-laws" having strange but good tasting food. Spent New Year's eve with two gay friends and their fag hag. Played charades. It was fun. Even though it wasn't always pleasant, I'm glad I was able to come and spend some time with you. You know I love you very much and value our friendship, and you are always welcome in our home. I hope one day you will change your mind and come visit us here in Italy. We will take you to this place deep in the forest where they serve the best dinner and all the wine and scones you can eat and drink. Let me know how things are going for you. Love, Ben

I wrote back:

I am glad you have gotten settled in. Some guy came over yesterday looking for an air compressor and I said that you guys have everything that was here and that you have moved to Italy.

After you left the cold weather and snow came so you were lucky that the weather was nice while you were here. I've been shoveling snow because the blower won't start and it's been in the teens. We are finally getting up to the 30's and some of the snow is melting.

We were in a minor fender bender December 20 when some Tongan made a right turn in front of us and there was so much ice and snow or the road couldn't stop in time. No one was hurt but Mike Romero's tail light and back fender got crunched.

Mark came over Christmas Eve and January 5th but haven't seen him since. He hurt his back when he slipped putting tire chains on his UPS truck. The 2nd term ended yesterday so the school year is now half over.

Obama will become President on Tuesday. Mike Romero wants to go to Circuit City today because they are going out of business and closing their doors today. Give Mattias a hug Love Ben

            John Reeves wrote to tell me one of his students is organizing the Warren-A-thon to raise money for Gay causes. This student is asking Gays to pledge money during the benediction that Rick Warren the asswipe evangelical is giving at Obama's inauguration. Then signs will be posted on how much money was raised.

Mike Romero and I went to Circuit City today because they filed bankruptcy and are closing all their stores. 32,000 people out of a job. Mike Romero bought a new computer for $700. He was sad that Circuit City closed because it was his favorite store to buy electronics.

Then we went to Sears and I bought a new vacuum cleaner for $170. Kenmore. That's all I will buy in appliances. Hmmm, Mike Romero buys a computer and I buy a vacuum... who's the domestic faerie?

 

19 January 2009 Monday

Martin Luther King Jr. Holiday so no school and the full last day of the Bush presidency.

When I was shopping at Smith's this man came up to me and asked if I taught school and I said I did and he said that he thought I had taught one of his kids, but he couldn't remember my name so I told him. He said that he was the father of Evan Nielsen who is now a Junior in High School and he told me that Evan always said I was his favorite teacher. That was nice to hear.

It was really, really smoggy today and will be for most of the week. You can't even see the buildings downtown let alone the mountains.

Today would have been my dad’s 84th birthday  (1925-2003)

 

20 January 2009 Tuesday

Historic day today. Barrack Obama was sworn in as the 44th President of the United States even if the Chief Justice Roberts blotched the oath.

I watch most of it on my computer at school with ABC news reporter Sam Donaldson as the main commentator. They said 1.4 million people were on the National Mall and 1/2 million more was on the Parade Route. I am proud to be an American today.

Today was a Quality Teaching Day which means I had to be at school but not the kids.

I had a bit of trouble getting started today when my truck died on me. I had just stopped to get a drink for school and as I was back tracking by the house the truck just died and the battery light came one. I was able to glide to a stop by a curb and fortunately I had my cell phone with me so I could call AAA. They said it would be about 30 minutes. While I was waiting I tried starting the car again and it started up! So I canceled AAA and drove back to the house and swapped the truck for the cruiser and made it to work by 9:00.

 

21 January 2009 Wednesday

Called mom yesterday before going to bed and we had a good long visit. It sounds like she is thinking about leaving Las Vegas and moving to Arizona. My sister wants to be close to her daughter there and mom would just move in with my sister and brother in law there. I told her that it sounded like a good plan.

Went back to school today with the kids. The smog was so bad that had the kids stay in recesses to keep from breathing in the gunk.

I had them write letters to President Obama about what they wished to see what would happening during his presidency and this Polynesian Mormon girl, parenting her parents wrote begging him not to let Gay people marry. How warped is that?

Mike Romero took the truck today and said that it seems to be running just fine now.

 

24 January 2009 Saturday

My friend Tony Jones from Arkansas tagged me to write 25 things about me.

1. Utah Mogul Larry Miller getting his legs amputated made me take my diabetes more seriously

2. I am addicted to Netflix Instant watch

3. I used to collect Uncle Scrooge Comics and still have many from the 1970’s and early 80’s. Left all my huge comic book collection at home when I went off to college. They went into the dustbin of history. I never was a fan of Marvel Comics or Stan Lee. I liked DC Comics better with Superman, Lois Lane, Action, and Batman being my favorites. I was extremely partial to Uncle Scrooge’s adventures especially the ones created by Carl Bark

4. I chewed beechnut tobacco when I was 17 years old because I was in love with Buddy Husky a 19 year old Texas Cowboy. I can count on my hands the cigarettes I have smoked in my life. Always thought smoking was stinky.

5. The best class I ever took in college was the History of Film at Cal State Fullerton! College credit for watching movies! Gotta love that.

6. I was on the Honor Roll in College until I went to BYU. I fell in love with half of the boys on my dorm floor and I never took my finals because I was attending their Missionary farewells and boohooing. Only reason I wasn’t kicked out was that my grades had been so high but it was a bitch redoing 17 hours of F’s.

7. I graduated from high school in 1969 so I am of the Class of 69! Sixty Nine So Fine was our cheer and the school administration just had to have heartburn because they couldn’t admit that there was a dirty connotation to 69.

8. I met Harvey Fierstein in 1989 when he was Grand Marshal of the NYC Gay Pride Parade. He was all by himself sitting on the back of a convertible so I approached him and introduced myself and said how his movies are so appreciated in the hinterlands like Utah. He smiled and thanked me and we visited just shortly until one of his entourage came over. He seemed such a genuine person

9. I’ve attended six colleges, Cypress College, Cal State Fullerton, BYU, Weber State College, Cal State Long Beach and Santa Ana College. I have over 256 semester hours enough for two degrees if I had been consistent in a major. I majored in history with a minor in Political Science, and almost minors in English Lit and Religious Studies.

10. On July 9, 1970, John Cunningham and I were at Disneyland and while on the Robert E. Lee we went to the back near the paddlewheel and as the dusk turned to twilight all the pixie dust lights came on and the lights sparkled on the churning water. It was the most romantic time of my life to be standing shoulder to shoulder with John and us both sharing the same enchantment.

11. After leaving the park after it closed John and I went to an all-night donut shop and we sat in his banana yellow Karma Ghia and talked about nothing. He could tell that there was something wrong because I became very quiet and moody and he was getting very impatient with me. He insisted that I tell him or he was going home. I said I couldn’t tell him because if I told him I’d lose him. He became irate at that and said that was a stupid thing to say. That I didn’t own him. And I said I know I didn’t own him but rather that I loved him. He sat very quiet and then sighed oh and then he softly said to me, “I don’t love you.”

12. There’s a lyric from a song in Phantom of the Paradise that said, “As fast as he came she didn’t get a last name.” Hell I usually never even got a first!

13. The Gay hanky code was fast disappearing when I completely came out of the closet in 1986. However I knew that I was a dark blue hanky in the right pocket. The terms French Passive and French Active and Greek Passive and Greek active was quickly replacing the code. I was French Active and Greek Passive.

14. I rode the train home in 1987 from the March on Washington Elementary and met the Washington Elementary coordinator for the Memorial Quilt. He told me all about how it came about and I told him I profoundly affected by seeing the Quilt there in Washington Elementary DC. Back in Salt Lake City I corresponded and got permission to form the Utah AIDS Memorial Quilt. I created the first AIDS panel in Utah for a beloved black drag queen even though I did not know her.

15. In 1974 I was a size 28 waist, BYU cute, and had lots, lots of guys wanting to bust my cherry but I said NO NO NO…. because I was young and dumb.

16. I have very long canine teeth. I look like a werewolf when I smile. I love my teeth. I even have an extra baby tooth right next to my right canine tooth. It really pisses of my dentist because he doesn’t know how to bill it to the insurance.

17. I have always been a great kisser with lots of lip, no teeth, and a playful tongue. I have been told I am great so I believe it. However these days I don’t nearly get to make out as often as I’d like.

18. I was born political… Being a homosexual in the 20th and 21st century is a political act! I have always voted in federal elections… I have been an openly gay delegate to Utah Conventions… I have marched, chanted, hollered, closed down streets, and written countless letters to the editor.

19. I missed much of the bar scene at a time in your life it should be fun. I joined the Mormon Church when I was 21 in part to forget John Cunningham, I married when I was 25 in part to forget I was a homosexual, and by the time I came out at 35 I was a bit old for the crowd scene and being an ex-Mormon I also didn’t know bar etiquette so I did what Mormons do best. I organized. I helped form the Wasatch Affirmation for Gay Mormons, I started Unconditional Support for Gays and Lesbians, and I became active in community organizing.

20. There is no one from high school whom I still really keep in touch. I had a close friend Jerry Smith all though grade school and high school. We shared the same birthday. He married and was swallowed up by California Sprawl and I moved off to the land of Zion. Once John had joined the army I had no desire to keep up with high school schoolmates.

21. I am ambivalent about internet social networking but then I graduated from college when computer science still meant keypunching. I like Facebook because it keeps me up to date in sound bites.

22. I've stopped listening to new music. I am no longer a contemporary man. I can sing from heart tunes from 50 years ago but could not tell you what’s in the top ten or who are the hottest singers or groups. By the time they are on my radar they are usually on their way out. I do have more music downloaded on my computer that I could possibly want. I have them filed by years starting with some from the 1890’s. My favorite decade for music is from 1965-1975. But then I was 14 to 24 my “wonder years”.

23. I spent 20 years in the same house before living home. My parents bought a four bedroom, two bathroom, single car garage stuccoed house in 1953 for $8,500. I was born in West Texas forty miles northwest of Lubbock, in a community that no longer exists. My father was a farmer at the time and then moved to Lubbock to become a cop. After his partner was shot and killed mom made him quit and return to farming. We left Texas in 1953, lived with my grandparents in Downey, California before Dad bought the house on Dale Street in the sleepy town of Garden Grove. There’s where I grew up, went to school, and lived before moving off to Utah. My parents lived there until 1988 when they sold the house. Vietnamese people own the house now.

24. I named my cat Billy Bikatski after Billy Bikowski a beautiful and talented wood carver that I love. I knew that Billy would never be my lover so when a little stray kitten crawled in the window of my basement apartment I called him Billy. Billy Bikowski was a stray who I fed and sheltered also for a period in my history. Like John, I loved him while he only needed me.

25. I am the oldest person among all my friends. There’s none that are older than me. Sometimes this makes me feel like a dinosaur and I am only 57.

 

30 January 2009 Friday

Well haven't posted for a while so here's some catching up. Learned from my principal that I will have a student teacher starting Tuesday. She said she had a student teacher emergency and I laughed.

Evidently Weber State called Liz and needed a place a student who's having problems with her mentor teacher... so Liz asked if I would take her for the next four weeks and I said sure... this will make about 7 student teachers I have trained so far in my career and I have another one starting next fall. I once had a professor tell me that I should be teaching teachers how to teach and I guess in my own way I am.

I also will have a new student next week so I will be up to 26 but that is less than the 31 I had last year so I can't complain. Like I told Liz I am happy to have a job.

I had Mrs. Pratt in today to work a half day doing some testing on my students. She's 75 and I like to give her as much work as I can scrounge up even though Liz would rather I not use her.

I also have a Weber Student who's about 22 who comes in just one day a week to observe. He's a guy so that makes me happy if not downright gay.

Smokey wasn't feeling well today ... gurgly stomach... Mike Romero thinks his pancreatic is coming back and if it is we will put the old boy down... I don't want to even think about that. Michael Aaron's dog Xenia Warrior Princess died last Monday.

Tuesday was William Munk's memorial at the Trapp. I wasn't feeling up to braving the weather to go out and I really didn't know him all that well. He died while vacationing in Egypt.

I stayed home and wrote an article for the Q Salt Lake on Love and Medieval Troubadours.

Haven't talked to Mom in a week so I guess they are still considering moving to Arizona.

Mike Romero said Randy Gile our old next door neighbor called him and said that Kimberlee and Alysse are going to Las Vegas to see Gay, Kim's mother and Alysse is flying up here to see some of her old high school friends.

I've really let the house go lately... need to really do some house cleaning but the Siren call from the Netflix instant watch box calls me to bed and then before I know it, I am watching Dr. Who.

Next week is parent teacher’s conference which I just dread.... ugh... going into school tomorrow to get ready for it.

Darren Solomon came over last Saturday for a little romp. Mike Romero was out with some of his friends and Darin called to ask if he could come over. He just likes to cuddle with me and I usually get him off then he's on his merry way.

I've had various encounters with Darin for over 15 years. I use to be really infatuated with him but now I just like him and like to make him happy for about a half hour then send him on his way. He is a sweet man but incredibly shy and he never says more than ten words to me.... the silent type.

Well I saw that the University of Utah's Marriott Library has finally posted on line the archive I saved from the Utah Stonewall Center when it closed in 1997.

I created the archives in 1988 and housed it in the center where it was stolen from me until about 2001 when Jay Bell negotiated with the Board of the new Gay and Lesbian Center for me to get it back. Jay Bell and I saved it from an old warehouse and hauled the 30 some odd boxes out and donated them to the Library. Jay Bell was hit by a car and killed shortly after that so he never got to see how they were cataloged.

I am pretty proud and I guess I have left a legacy for future historians to look back and learn of our struggle for Civil Rights in the heart of Mormondom.

 

31 January  2009 Saturday

  End of January 2009. Michael and I went to Amber's Restaurant for breakfast and just had a relaxing morning. Later I finally got busy and changed the sheets, cleaned my room and bathroom and did some laundry.

In the evening we went to the Rose Wagner Theater to see if we could get tickets for Boys in the Band but alas they were sold out and it closes tonight so Tom Folk came over and we watched the movie on the big screen. Goodbye January

 

February

2 February 2009 Monday

Ground Hog's Day.. the most under rated holiday! Started my Parent teacher's conferences today. Did four so 21 more to go. The new boy seems to be okay so far. When I came home I chopped up some roasts into little bits so Mike Romero can feed the dogs for the rest of the week. I will be working until 7 or later Tuesday through Thursday.

 

6 February 2009 Friday

It's been a long week with Parent Teachers Conference until 7 or 7:30 at night. Well at least that's done for the year. Now I am dealing with mean girls that are out to hurt each other during recesses.

My student teacher started this week. Her name is Debra Borsath who used to be in the Military Police in the Army and is a divorce mother of five. I think she will be great.

Because I get home so late I don't do much but grab a bite to eat... watch a little telly and then go to bed to start it all over again.

Michael Romero went back on hourly salary at his work so he's no longer considered a manager because Amy is a manager and they didn't want two managers at the same place. His pay should remain the same he said.

China Delight our fav Chinese Food take out has opened back up down on Redwood and North Temple so we went there for supper tonight. Good as always.

Mike Romero says that Mark Anderson might be coming over tomorrow. That would be really nice.

My article on Gay Troubadours from the Middle Ages was in this week’s issue of the Q Salt Lake. It's vain I know but I always enjoy seeing my work in print.

Recession is getting worse with 600,000 laid off in January. Grateful still have a job but teaching is kind of recession proof... might have to take a pay cut but I will keep a roof over my head and food on the table which is lot more than some people can say these days.

 

7 February 2009 Saturday

Mark Andersen came over today. It's a happy day whenever he comes over. He's like a son to me but in a Gay way. He calls me mama bear and Michael Papa bear. We call him the kid or the boy.

He had to work today near us so he drove up this morning from Payson and We went out to breakfast at the Amber Cafe. He had a Denver Omelet; Michael had a Belgium Waffle, and I had French Toast. Michael treated so I left a $5 tip because I know times are tough for working people.

Michael went with Mark to work while I went up to school to finish up some stuff I didn't get to yesterday. I was done about the time they were done so I told Mark I wanted to take him to the Texas Roadhouse that had just opened in Bountiful as a treat for Valentine’s Day. He had a sirloin steak, Mike Romero had sirloin shish kabobs and I had ribs. It was delicious but filling. They had beer too.

I left a $10 tip on a $50 tab so I guess Mike Romero and I are trying to keep the economy going.... the place was packed so people must still have some money to be eating out.

Mark needed to go home to his wife Tiff after we were all through so after a series of hugs and telling him not to wait so long to come see us, he left. I gave him my old cell phone, plug and car charger so that if he breaks his phone again he could use that. We just love that kid.

Michael Aaron emailed me and said that he really enjoyed my article on love that I wrote for the Lambda Lore column and had been telling everyone to read it. A little praise is a good thing. So all in all this was a good day.

 

13 February 2009 Friday

Friday the 13th but didn't seem too unlucky today. I had Mrs. Pratt come into today so she worked with Ms. Borsath and helped with the kids’ Valentine's Party.

I took Buddy and Daisy to the groomers today because it's been since November. It cost $105 to have them groomed. While they were being groomed I went to my barber and paid $10 for a haircut and a beard trim.

Michael and I then went out to breakfast at Ambers so it's felt like Saturday all day.

We then headed to Sam's Club to buy Chicken Strip treats for the hounds and then Mark Andersen called and asked to go to lunch with us. We took him to Apollo Burgers, the new one of 17th South and 9th West and it was so good to be visiting with him. I love feeding him.

After he went back to work, Mike Romero and I picked up Buddy and Daisy from the groomers and after dropping them off went to the Pharmacy to pick up my pills for the month.

Haven't felt well today, kind of like coming down with something so didn't eat much supper although Tom Folks came over with a Little Caesar Pizza. Mike Romero and he watched a movie after we visited some.

I did my taxes today and will get a refund from the feds and state. The Republicans in Congress are trying to derail the stimulus packet but there are enough Democrats to get it passed.

A plane crashed near Buffalo NY killing 50 people... I guess ice on the wings made it drop like a lead balloon.. Too sad.

Governor Huntsman here in Utah said that he favors Civil Unions for Gay people and 30 legislators ganged up on him for it.

We watched Oliver Stone's film “W.” about George Bush... what a loser...really almost a tragic figure.

 

23 February 2009 Monday

It has been awhile since reporting in so I better begin. Mark Andersen is back in our lives big time. Last Wednesday he came up to Salt Lake and Mike Romero took off from work to be with him. They went to the Prehistoric Museum at Thanksgiving Point and then out to Wendover, Nevada. They had a good heart to heart and I suppose Mike Romero apologized for going off the deep end last November.

However the next day Mark went to work and found out that he had been fired for some traffic citation from last summer that had just gotten reported.

Companies are really looking for reasons to let people go. He was so stressed out and stayed up here the rest of the week to try and fight to get his job back.

Friday he and I went to Washington Elementary Mutual to open a joint checking account so he can have some money that he doesn't have to account for every penny to his wife and in the evening we went to Amber's Restaurant on 33rd South for dinner and there again in the morning for breakfast.

He has to bring some paper work in to show that the citation had been paid and it was the courts fault for sending out a notice when it had been paid.

 He came up today I guess this morning and Mike Romero took off a half day to be with him and I took them to dinner at Applebee's in Bountiful because Mark was really hungry.

So happy to have our son back with us even if it's under these circumstances. He's really stressed out but says being with us relieves his tension.

I've had a student teacher all this month Mrs. Borsath who is wonderful and reminds me an awful lot of my former wife. She's quite capable so I just let her run things so she can get as much experience as she can. I will lose her after this week.

In the news Chris Buttars a Utah State Senator was recorded in a video interview saying that Gay People are like Muslim Terrorists and we are the greatest threat to America and we like to have pig sex. He was censored by the GOP wing of the Senate not for what he said but because he broke an agreement with his colleagues not to talk about Gay issues but Sen. Leader Waddoup and Sen. Stephenson came out and said that they agreed with Buttars sentiments.

Every Gay Rights Bill presented by Equality Utah as part of a Common Ground packet was shot down. Equality Utah was testing whether the Mormon Church would be true to its word that they wouldn't oppose legislation to give Gays certain rights because of the backlash the Mormons took from bankrolling Proposition 8 in California that made Gay marriage illegal there.

Obama got his Stimulus Bill passed at $700 billion dollars to help with our broken economy that was looted by the Christian Right GOP.

I sent Faye Romero a card for her birthday and called her on the 19th. They seem to be doing okay.

Mom said our old neighbor in Garden Grove Madelyn Battreal died . Her son Danny Battreal was only a year older than me and my playmate for much of my childhood. When he became a teenager I had a crush on him.

I've been on Facebook a lot hooking up with friends and family.

 

March

14 March 2009 Saturday

I went to the Genealogy Library today to work on the Morgan line some more. Really didn't find much but wanted to look any way.

 

15 March  2009 Sunday

Feeling kind of down all day so I stayed in bed and watched movie after movie. Felt lethargic like I am getting sick. My bowels are loose and don't feel like eating anything.

 

16 March 2009 Monday

I woke up feeling miserable but had not prepared anything for school so I dragged myself in. I was so achy and tired I knew I must have had the stomach flu. The other 5th grade teacher said that her husband had the flu. During lunch I laid down on the floor behind my desk to rest. Couldn't eat a think my stomach was so queasy.

 

17 March 2009 Tuesday

Mark Anderson dropped by this morning before I headed off to work. He was surprised to see me still not dressed. I told him I was sick and just running slow. I had diarrhea all night.

Mark said that UPS put him on part time and he won't work any this week and just about 3 hours a day next week. He was feeling discouraged but still grateful to have his job at UPS

 

19 March 2009 Thursday

Had a sad email from Leann Unger today saying LuAnn Neilsen my old friend from Orchard had passed away. I taught her son Jeremy way back in 1994 I think. She was funny and a hoot. She made working at Orchard a joy.

I brought a Pizza home for dinner tonight for Mark Anderson and Mike Romero but I don't think Mike Romero ate a bit of it. My appetite is slowly coming back.

Blew up at my kids at school. They deserved it but a lot of it is that I am still worn out.

 

20 March 2009 Friday

Went into school although my stomach seemed more upset today than usual. I have been taking Imodium for my diarrhea all week. My energy is back but my stomach is still out of sorts.

 Mark Andersen came in this morning as I was getting ready to go to work. I said make yourself at home and told him I tried to be home by 2.

School went by fast enough and glad I didn't take off because all the 5th grade teachers but me were gone today.

I left right after school was out and was pleasantly surprised that Mark had raked up all the branches and leaves that had fallen from the Globe Willows. He said he wanted to do yard work to help out since I had helped him out so much.

I changed clothes myself and helped some and we drove out to the dump in West Valley to empty my truck that was filled with debris. It really made my old heart glad for the help because I am getting kind of old for it all.

I transferred $200 into our Washington Elementary Mutual Account to pay him for all his hard work and when Mike Romero came home we went out to dinner and to Sam's Club. Needed to get some treats for the dogs and for us.

We went to Texas Roadhouse for dinner and it was really good. I paid for dinner $65 but needed to celebrate the first day of Spring anyway.

After eating came home and Mark wanted to get his wife a digital camera from RC Wiley where he has an account but the only store that had it was in South Ogden.

It was 8:30 when we zoomed up there and they were locking the door as we arrived but we told them that we had called in advanced and was picking up a camera so we barely squeaked in.

Mark was going to put in on his card but I went ahead and paid for it saying that he can pay me back my doing yard work this summer.

When we got home finally which nearly 10 pm Mark said, “Let’s watch King Kong the 1933 version because I had been badgering him to see it and I know he wanted to please me so it was nearly midnight before we all went to bed.

 

21 March 2009 Saturday

What a nice day. I crawled in bed with Mark Andersen this morning to snuggle and give him a hand massage since I knew his hands would be sore from all the raking her did yesterday.

When everyone was up we went to Amber Restaurant and had a good breakfast. My stomach is still not settled so I ate a light breakfast.

After breakfast we went to Sears where I bought a new Sears Craftsman lawn mower and a trimmer/ edger that Mark said he wanted to make the yard easier for him. I Spent about $450 on the both of them.

He wanted to try out his new toys so when we got home he put them together and used them. Mike Romero took pictures of him with while they were still shiny and new.

The back yard was awfully dusty and dry.

Later afternoon, Mike Romero and Mark wanted to go to the Hill Air force Museum up in Clearfield and Mark wanted me to go with them so I went. The museum is free and really interesting but not that much for me but I was seeing them through Mark's eyes. We were there for a couple of hours before we headed home.

We stopped in Clinton first to eat lunch. Mark wanted to eat at a Grand Central hamburger joint so we did. All the Grand Centrals in SL County have closed so it was a treat.

We went to the park at Sunset to eat and although it was quite windy it was a nice day. Could tell that a storm was coming in though. Typical Spring time weather in the Rockies.

Mark left about four to go home to Payson. Hated to see him go but he's on a time share with us and we had a really good time.

After he left I watched Netflix Instant Watch for the rest of the evening although Tom Folk came over to watch MILK with Michael. It was a nice day to remember.

 

22 March 2009 Sunday-

Slept in late until about 9. May have been the cold medicine I took last night so I could sleep better. Did some grocery shopping this morning and as the day progress it got colder and colder. I wrote my next article for QSalt Lake today. That took much of my afternoon. Wrote it about April 1969. This year I plan on writing about events from 40 years ago.

 

27 March 2009 Friday

I was the only 5th grade teacher that came in to work today and I've had stomach cramps all day from the flu. I told Ms. Beck that I was a trooper.

I saw Mark Andersen  a little bit before he went into work at 4:30. He's picking up his daughter after he gets off work and will have her all week.

At 6 pm I did a program for KRCL Radioactive Program. Troy Williams who produces the show asked if I would come in and give a historical perspective on Queer Nation. Curtis Jensen was on line from San Francisco and Matt Landis was in the studio. I had a tickle in my throat all through the program and was afraid I'd start hacking but I didn't.

Troy Williams is a cutie and I was very very impressed with his professionalism and energy. It was good to see Matt again. Funny these Queer Nation folks are now as old as I was when I was involved nominally with Queer Nation.

 

29 March 2009 Sunday

I took an eye color personality test from Face Book and this is what it said: Your eyes reflect the color Orange. You are very spontaneous at times, but you tend to be mostly content and mellow. You are cheerful and also very excitable. You are also drawn to people and have a pretty good understanding of them. You are a people person. This color also can reflect indifference, un-willingness and slowness. It also can represent bluntness as well. In all you are a Mutual person who is in between Boldness and Bubbliness.

 

30 March 2009 Monday

Mark Anderson was up again today and didn't bring Tiff's car up like he planned. He said he wasn't feeling well so called sick into UPS and spent the evening with us. He said he missed spending time with us.

I had a pot-roast going for dinner and we ate that and learned that he doesn't like carrots much. He's a meat and potato kind of guy. I was planning on turning in about 7:30 when he wanted me to watch Quantum Solace the most recent James Bond movie, with him and Mike Romero. The way he asked by saying please come watch it with us made me not able to refuse. He lay on the floor for much of it while he rested his feet on the futon where I was so I could rub his feet. He's so spoiled.

 

31 March 2009 Tuesday-

Today is my grandma Williams 107th birthday and I miss her so much. She died 30 years ago last January.

Mark Andersen stayed at the house all day saying that he didn't feel well so he called in sick at UPS again. One of the reasons I think he's not feeling well is because he's staying up all hours.

I have ants up in the cupboard so asked him to clean out the pantry and wipe it down to the kill the ants.

I had to stay late tonight for our 3rd Parent Teachers conference but no one showed. I didn't get home until about 6:30 and then spent about 1/2 hour putting things back in the pantry.

Kind of pissed me off that both Mike Romero and Mark were playing on the computer when the dogs hadn't been fed or watered. SO I fixed the dogs their dinner first then Mark came in with his puppy eyes and I said “are you hungry and he said a little bit so I fixed him two hamburgers that  he ate with the potato salad I made yesterday and Mike Romero finished up the Chili Verde I made last Saturday.

I asked Mark why he didn’t fix himself something to eat because there was so much left over in the refrig and he says he was waiting for his favorite cook to get home. He sure knows how to pile on the bs but I love it.

In Mike Romero's room we watched BOLT the animated story about a dog that thinks he has super powers. Made Mark get off the computer and come lay with us in bed. He lay on his stomach with his feet on my belly and I rubbed his feet while the hounds all piled around us. The movie was fun but loved all three of us in bed together. I guess old Huntsman signed the bill doing away with private club memberships.

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